Man Seeks Advice Over Lifelong Concern About Penis Size

I am 26, and this situation has been with me for as far back as I can recall. My penis is unusually large, and people started commenting on it when I was still a boy. No other man in my family has anything like it. I can still remember a doctor saying to my mother that it was big, but that I would have to find a way to live with it.

While I was in high school, girls used to give me all kinds of nicknames. I did not have a girlfriend during those years. After I began working, I tried dating, but whenever I asked a girl for sex or tried to be intimate, she would pull away. They said they could not handle me because of my size.

I have attempted sex with several young women, but they would cry out when I tried to enter them. Their reaction made it seem as if I was forcing myself on them, which is not what I want. I do not want to spend the rest of my life dealing with this. I am asking whether anything can be done so I can have what I would consider a normal penis. I will be watching for my letter and your reply in THE STAR. D

Dear D,

It appears that you are asking whether surgery can be used to make a man’s penis smaller. I must tell you that I have not heard of such an operation. What I do know is that some men have paid for surgery to make their penis larger, and that procedure costs a great deal of money.

Men who put on a lot of weight may notice that their penis seems smaller. You can look into that for yourself and do your own research. However, I would not advise you to spend money chasing an operation to reduce your size.

If every woman you meet is backing away and saying you are too big, then I accept that you are facing a serious problem. I once counselled a woman who was pleased to say she had slept with a man other women avoided. She said she enjoyed the experience and was quite comfortable with him. I did not ask how much money he gave her, but I understood that it was a large amount.

When I was young, there was also a man from my town who had lived in England. When he came back home, people recognised him because of the size of his penis. One woman who had sex with him said he paid her before they went to bed, but when he started, she screamed and told him to stop. She even asked him to take back the money. Afterward, people in the community teased her about what happened.

None of what I have said should stop you from seeking professional help. There are women who are attracted to men who are well endowed, but in your case, it seems that what you call a gift has become a heavy burden. Pastor